The goal is identity preservation.

Obsessing and ruminating is a skill at which we are all tremendously accomplished, and admittedly that feels like mental work because it’s exhausting and unrewarding, but you can no more ruminate your way through a life crisis than a differential equation.  So[…] after a few years of childhood insecurity, you’ll choose the Blue Pill begin the dreaming: someday and someplace you’ll show someone how great you somehow are.

The last psychiatrist, of course, again.